How to Build a Good Relationship Bank Account With Your Partner

“Do what you did in the beginning of a relationship and there won’t be an end”

Anthony Robbins

How to build a good relationship bank account with your partner. Let’s face it, our relationships both professional and personal are part of the fabric of life, and extremely important, that would be an understatement.

How many times have you had an upset in your professional or personal relationships and it affected your whole life balance? When negative emotions take the forefront of our life, most other areas stop or go south very quickly because of our negative emotional state.

Understanding and actually experiencing negative emotions in our relationships we all know only too well the devastation they can cause.

When our relationships are good, positive, and working well, the sun shines so brightly in our lives and creates a wonderful experience for ourselves and all those around us.

So how can we reduce or even eliminate these negative emotions, and learn how to build a good relationship with your partner both in your personal and professional life?

The Money Bank Account

Everyone knows how a normal bank account works. It’s a place where we make deposits and withdrawals.

While we are making more deposits than withdrawals we feel great and our bank manager leaves us alone.

If we start to make more withdrawals than deposits and the account enters the red, we will very quickly be acquainted with our bank manager.

The idea is to make more deposits building our wealth so we can function effortlessly and have more positive experiences in our life with what money can buy and allow us to experience.

The Relationship Bank Account

We want to look at ALL OUR RELATIONSHIPS, each and everyone, as a separate relationship bank account. In a bank account, we are either making deposits or withdrawals. We are either in the black or in the red.

To keep our relationship bank accounts healthy we need to be making more regular deposits and fewer withdrawals to ensure we maintain a good relationship.

If we want to deepen and develop the relationship we increase the number and frequency of deposits we are making.

So, what are deposits and withdrawals when it comes to a relationship bank account?

Relationship Bank Account Deposits

Here are a few examples of deposits into a relationship bank account:

Professional Relationship.

• Be on time for your meetings and appointments
• Treat colleagues with respect
• See them in a positive light
• Smile
• Listen to them and hear them out
• Make them a coffee or tea
• Be polite – use positive tonality and body language
• Give them genuine praise for their appearance
• Congratulate them for a job well done

I’m sure you can come up with a few of your own. Our corporate and individual clients who are familiar with the relationship bank account have many creative ways to make deposits.

Personal Relationship.

• Make time for them
• Buy small gifts
• Take them out to diner
• Compliment them
• Help around the house
• Listen without interrupting them
• Love them up
• Say sweet words to them
• Smile

I’m very confident that you can definitely add to this list as well.

Relationship Bank Account Withdrawals

Here are a few examples of withdrawals from a relationship bank account:

Professional Relationship.

• Talking over the top of a colleague
• Ignoring them
• Accusing them
• Talking bad about them
• Not respecting their time
• Using harsh language and tonality
• Using defensive body language
• Not supporting your colleagues
• Talk about them behind their back

Can you think of a few of your own to which you can make a commitment to stop making these withdrawals with your colleagues?

Personal Relationship.

• Coming home late at night
• Not helping around the home
• Taking the relationship for granted
• Not spending time with your partner
• Arguing all the time
• Pointing out your partner’s weaknesses
• Making your partner wrong
• Not listening to them
• Talking bad about them

Can you think of a few of your own to which you can make a commitment to stop making these withdrawals with your partner?

In our corporate coaching sessions and training, we teach our clients how to increase their deposits and reduce their withdrawals for longer-lasting, deep and meaningful relationships.

Now you know how to build a good relationship bank account with your partner in your professional and personal lives.

This is a very simple, yet very powerful concept to easily remember and check in on yourself to see if you are making deposits or withdrawals in all your relationships.

The easy way to determine if your relationships are close to or are bankrupt is to notice the results you are getting in each and every one of your relationships.

Are they transforming into stronger, deeper, more enjoyable, fun-filled, experiences?

Or are they hard, laborious, tense, superficial, not fun, painful, experiences?

How To Get Started Building your Relationship Bank Account With Your Partner

Remember what it was like at the beginning of your love relationship? You surely remember the honeymoon experience when you were first dating or shortly thereafter.

It was a wonderful time, it was a wonderful experience. You were so happy to spend time with your love and nothing was a problem. The world was perfect, nothing could go wrong.

We were all so tolerant, and we would do almost anything, for our sweetheart.

Then life got in the way, marriage, family, kids, mortgages, time was scarce, stress levels high and we started treating our sweetheart differently. When we treated our partner differently we also attracted different results.

If you want the results you got during the honeymoon period, you need to start behaving like you use to when you first met each other. Get back into the honeymoon state of mind and start dating your partner again.

Start to make all those big and frequent deposits you made during the honeymoon period and your relationship bank account will be back in the black. You will start to enjoy and feel abundant once again in your love relationship. You will start to enjoy and experience love all over again.

Now you know how to build a good relationship bank account with your partner.

Paul Simos is an accomplished Executive Life Coach, Health Coach & Certified Trainer.
He has a fundamental belief about his clients which frames how they work together i.e. they already have everything they need to achieve success. His role as a coach is to stimulate and challenge his clients to unlock their successful beliefs, skills, and behavior patterns.
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