It is Not My Fault it is Their Fault

It is Not My Fault it is Their Fault.

It is Not My Fault it is Their Fault are words that we may hear often or closer to home they could be words that roll off the top of our tongue from time to time.

I was having a discussion with a friend a week ago and we were getting stuck on the words Fault and Responsibility.

At home, in the workplace, with friends, in relationships we hear the words all too often that it’s their fault. They are responsible, and they should fix the problem.

It doesn’t matter who’s fault it is, if I’m being responsible it’s up to me to work it out.

• Yes, it may not be my fault that my father is an abusive alcoholic yet I’m responsible to deal with it the best way I can so I can have a more normal life.
• Yes, It may not be my fault that my wife / husband left me Yet I’m responsible for dealing with the pain as best I can and creating the best life possible moving forward.
• Yes, It may not be my fault I have to raise two kids on my own Yet I’m responsible for raising them and giving them a loving start to life in the best possible way I can.
• Yes, it may not be my fault that my business partner cheated on me Yet I’m responsible to rectify the situation to make the best from a bad situation.

I remember Tony Robbins recounting a true story of his when he was building his business some 30 years ago. His business partner stole a large sum of money leaving Tony in debt to the tune of $750,000 usd which was a lot of money for him at that time.

People advised him not to worry about it because it wasn’t his fault. File for bankruptcy and let it go. It’s his fault not yours.

Tony went home that night not knowing what to do. After talking it out and thinking about it he said yes, it’s not my fault Yet I’m the owner of the company and its my life, my responsibility.

Fault and Responsibility don’t go together and it sucks…

When its someone else’s fault we want them to pay, we want them to suffer.

Understand this…

Its our heart and life at risk here. Do we want to throw a whole lot of emotion and energy towards something that will definitely go in a direction that has very few if any advantages for the rest of my life?

Where the focus goes our energy flows.

We are all responsible for our life and life experiences even though some situations may not be our fault.

If we want to run our lives at CAUSE (be in control) we accept the responsibility for our life experiences and situations that we encounter. We then have the power and freedom to do something about it and make our lives better.

When I don’t take responsibility for what I’m creating around me I become a VICTIM. It’s not my fault, I’m not responsible so nothing for me to do. You fix the problem. I’ll just sit here and bitch and complain about it. It is Not My Fault it is Their Fault.

Once I take full responsibility a wonderful thing happens.

I have a LEARNING. An opportunity to grow, learn and increase my knowledge.

I learn how to fix the problem and make sure it never happens again. I am back in charge of my life. I want to live the best life I can so its up to me to be responsible even if its not my fault because I will be the winner in learning and growing towards a much better life.

Once we take responsibility for every area of our life, no matter what, watch the magic happen as we learn and grow into a wonderful empowering life.

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